It wasn’t until I ended things with a great love of my life that I finally had this awareness “I am an amazing relationship partner!” And I ended it because he wasn’t all in. “If you are such an amazing relationship partner, then why wasn’t he all in?” you may ask. A big part of it was because while we were together, I thought I was the silver medal. Half of me felt like I was doing a great job, the other half of me felt like he could probably do better than me. Before I began to work on myself, I don’t even think I felt like I placed. But now, I know I am the Gold friggin medal!!!
What shifted? Well, I chose to sit down and get very clear about what I really loved about myself. I listed out all of my accomplishments, all of my experiences, the traveling I’ve done, where I’ve lived, and the investments that I’ve made in myself. Then, I listed out the qualities that I love about myself. Afterwards, I posted them up somewhere that I could see them regularly so that I could connect with them every day. When I did that, I found myself feeling more confident and began to realize how awesome I am. When I say that I’m awesome, I’m not saying it to brag. But, truly I am, and we are, all awesome in our own ways. One of my favorite quotes is from Marianne Williamson, and a part of it says, “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.” That’s because, you, too, are the Gold friggin medal!