Learning how to find your soulmate requires knowing how to love yourself first. It’s essential for falling in love and finding happiness with a partner as kindred spirits.
Yet, most people enter a new relationship with remnants of their old relationships. Old beliefs, old wounds and old stories can creep up and impact your relationship with your new boyfriend or girlfriend.
When you don’t resolve your issues from the past, they’re sure to make an appearance until you deal with them head-on.
Being committed to doing your inner work, either before a new relationship or during it, is one of the most self-empowering and self-loving acts you can do for yourself and for your relationships with others.
Here are 4 critical insights you gain when you learn how to love yourself that show you how to find your soulmate and grow your relationship as kindred spirits.
1. How to love securely.
In the beginning stages of a new relationship, some people feel anxious while others feel safe.
When you are loving and grounded within yourself, you will be able to securely love your partner. This means that you’ll be able to express your feelings without worrying about how they will react.
You’ll also be able to love them and support them unconditionally because you won’t be putting conditions on them to prove themselves to you or feel the need to prove anything to them.
When you love yourself, you are in a healthy relationship with yourself. As a result, you’ll be able to have a healthy relationship with your partner.
2. How to communicate clearly and lovingly.
Loving yourself also means knowing yourself.
What are your must-haves and deal-breakers for a soulmate? What works and doesn’t work for you in a relationship? What do you want to experience in the relationship?
The more clear you are about who you are and what you want in your relationship, the more clearly and maturely you’ll be able to communicate these things to your partner.
Also, the more easily you’ll be able to make mutual agreements about what you want and need to keep your relationship strong and on the healthy path.
When you honor yourself in this way, you can eliminate the need to get angry or fight with your partner.
3. How to establish the freedom to be yourself.
Loving yourself in a relationship means you’ll be more confident in who you are and what you deserve.
When you are clear that you are worthy and deserving to be loved and to be in a loving, healthy relationship, it will up-level the caliber of people that you’ve attracted in the past.
You’ll begin attracting kindred spirits that believe that about themselves as well. That will set you up for an amazing, powerful, and intimate connection.
When you’re truly free to be yourself, then you won’t need to hide any parts of yourself for fear of judgments or rejection.
Being fully transparent with your partner is what relationships thrive on, and helps build an even deeper intimate connection. You’ll experience deeper, more authentic love than you’ve probably ever experienced before.
4. How to be happy.
Many people seek happiness outside of themselves. They believe “If I have a great job, the perfect mate, or that beautiful home, then I’ll be happy.”
But no one or nothing else can make you happy. Learning how to love yourself starts with the awareness that it’s an inside job.
Imagine being in a relationship where the other person is off the hook for making your life better. They can just be there to love you and support you. And, you can just love and support them without placing any unrealistic expectations on them to fulfill your emotional well-being.
That takes the pressure off of soulmates and allows you both to be present and free to enjoy your relationship.
Having the healthy, loving relationship of your dreams begins with you loving yourself first and foremost. It’s the foundation for which the relationship can blossom into everything that you’ve imagined, and more!
When you learn how to love yourself, it impacts every area of your life and makes life that much sweeter.
I am an internationally-known dating coach, professional speaker, workshop leader, and author of The One Simple Secret to Attracting Your Soulmate Now. To learn more about self-love, or for a free Create Your Soulmate Strategy Session, click here.