You can find your soul’s perfect mate online.
Trying to figure out how to find your soulmate through online dating and fall in love, so you can finally become kindred spirits with the guy or gal of your dreams?
Looking for love and a soul-level connection via online dating apps can feel like a part-time job, which is why single women need some smart dating advice that will turn their luck around.
The old saying “The good ones are already taken” doesn’t really apply anymore. Instead, the expression “There are plenty of fish in the sea” rings more true. In fact, the number of potential soulmate matches online can be pretty overwhelming.
Some say it’s a numbers game, like one of my clients who went on 100 dates before meeting her husband. And while there is truth to that, there are likely some deeper reasons you haven’t fallen in love with your kindred spirit yet.
If you want to learn how to find your soulmate and start falling in love, here are 4 ways single women can find their kindred spirits through online dating apps:
1. Get your ego in check.
If you are one of the millions of single women who are currently dating online, your number of potential matches are limitless. And while you might be thinking “the more options, the better,” it can go to your head and inflate your ego over time if you’re not careful.
For example, one guy I know was having a lot of success on Bumble. And although he had met some amazing women, he kept going on date after date with new and interesting ladies, despite wanting to find “the one.”
He was addicted to all the attention. His ego loved that so many women were interested in him that it kept him wanting more — which means he was always looking for that next date, rather than a quality relationship.
2. Stop absorbing negativity from others.
If the friends and family that you surround yourself with talk nothing but smack about men, it’s hard not to agree with them. There are some people who have only negative comments to make. Whether the bar is too crowded or how slow your waitress is, they pretty much complain about everything — especially when it comes to love and dating. Let’s call them “the Naysayers”.
It’s wonderful to have a community of people who love us and support you. But, when that community is filled with “Naysayers” and negativity, it can paralyze your love life. So keep their mentally block out their negativity so you can maintain a positive outlook when you’re looking for love.
3. Get clear about what you want.
Swiping right on a guy just because he’s hot doesn’t usually turn into the long-lasting relationship you’re seeking. So before you start swiping thousands of guys on whatever online dating apps you may be using, get clear about what you want — in a relationship, in a man and in life.
By reading guys’ profiles and taking cues from their photos, you can easily assess whether they’d be a match for what you’re looking for and save yourself (and him!) from any unnecessary heartache.
For example, after Will had five magical dates with Susie, she told him she wasn’t ready for a relationship and Will was devastated. Had Susie been upfront and clear about what she was looking for, they could have potentially continued a relationship based on those terms.
Or, Will never would’ve asked Susie on a second date if he knew she didn’t want anything serious, saving them both time and energy they could’ve spent connecting with someone who might’ve been a better match.
4. Believe in your power to find true love.
That inner voice in your head can sure be a Debbie Downer. She loves to tell you that you don’t deserve a great guy. You’re not good enough for him. You’re not worthy of having your dreams come true by meeting your kindred spirit.
All of these self-bullying thoughts might be the biggest reason you’re single, despite being on online dating apps and actively trying to find a soulmate.
Meeting new people can be scary, especially if it’s someone you’re considering sharing your life with. But if you buy into these self-doubts that your inner voice is telling you, you’ll exude energy that’s filled with negativity and fear. And that’s going to be a total turn-off for guys. Both men and women find confidence attractive. And in order to be confident about dating, you have to actually believe — and know — that you are worthy and deserving of love!
That’s why the more self-aware you become about who you are, what you’re looking for, and how you’re showing up in the world, the more empowered you can be in dating.
There are plenty of fabulous fish in the sea. So if you do these 4 things, you can get out there, meet your soulmate and feel the joy of being kindred spirits at last.
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